Purpose of Life 

Life is unpredictable. 
Each day is a new surprise. 
We rise up every morning with a planned schedule ahead of us, little do we know what awaits us.

So well the quote says, " Man proposes God disposes of"

Since a few months, I always thought why despite all my efforts am I not happy. What is it that I am doing wrong?

I asked many questions to myself," Am I afraid of failures ?" " Am I expecting too much than what I  actually deserve?"

All the answers were "No" 

Failure to understand this I started to fall back and that's when God gave me the answer in an amazing way.

He showed me the way. He made me realise that in all what I missed was my biggest strength- My self-belief, my dreams, my passion, " me being myself"

Many years ago someone helped me to meet myself and I found the joy of it but as I time passed I lost it somewhere in the midst of my responsibilities where I forgot to be me. 

Here I am back, searching for the purpose of my life, approaching my dreams and passions.

Life is unpredictable.  You don't know what awaits you next but open your arms to all and accept everything to your heart keeping your soul pure.

When you believe in yourself You believe in wonders of God and He has His own way to giving you His plan of life.

You follow your passion 
Work toward your dreams 
He will build the path to it 

Free Will - 3

I am back with my thoughts on Free Will

Let me ask a few questions, that run in my mind everytime I think of having a Free Will....

1. Are there any restrictions in practicing one's Free Will?

2. Does one's age determine the ability to have a free will?

3. Are our emotions like anger , jealousy , happiness , etc. connected to Free Will?

4. Is being judged and being judgemental a part of the Free Will?

5. Can one's Free Will be harmful for the other?

Oh my God!!!

My thoughts and questions just don't tend to end about this Free Will.....

I don't know if these questions could ever get an answer but I think they really provoke me to think multiple times before every action that I do. 

No human is perfect but I believe if we all start utilising this God given gift of having our  Free Will in the right direction ( subjected to individual thoughts ) , it could help in human welfare. 

What are your thoughts about this? 

Do comment and share your ideas here with me. 

Inner Strength

I wonder why Men are called more stronger than women.

Earlier this week I witnessed an Inner Strength of a women.

A cute little girl - this is  how I knew this friend of mine. I always thought she is so fragile that slightest of pain would break her and her eyes would be filled with tears and We( friends) would run to her rescue. 
Today she is an expecting mother and unfortunately the baby has decided to meet her sooner than the time ( a premature delivery ). The girl who used to scream on mere sight of an injection needle was now consoling others around her and explaining the situation , bearing that excruciating pain of labor.

I was astonished at this sight . When i shared my view about the incident with my others friends, they told me that however weak or fragile we may be but God gives us strength when we need it the most. I thanked the Lord for the strength He has blessed women with.
At the same time I feel sorry for the men who are unfortunate to have very little opportunities to explore that Inner Strength.

This was not the first incident when I have experienced or witnessed the Inner Strength of a women. Right from mother to mother in law, from me being a little girl to a married women, my different female bosses and every other female that I have come accross has demonstrated their Inner Strength in different ways at different occasions. 

Another incident was when I had a friend who lost both her parents in a short span of time , for a minute the world came to an end for her but she restarted the life from a new beginning inspiring many lifes.

In a country like India where birth of a girl is consider to be burden or stress , I know these two girls who are bread owners to the family and carry the house on their shoulders.


So what's this inner strength that God has given to Women?

Strength to forgive , forget, love unconditionally, work from morn to eve still be introduced as jobless.

Women are binders. 

Men are strong but not as strong as a women to accept , to interpret the unsaid words in the eyes, to read the voice heard over the phone. 

It's true , when God gives us task He also gives us the strength to fulfil it. So when He made women to take care of the world He created , He blessed her with the ability to hold it together with her Inner Strength.

A Silent Tear

A Silent Tear 

Have you ever shed 'a silent tear?'

Difficult to answer that , I know.

Standing in midst of a crowd , still lonely,
Covering your face with the rain drops , not letting anyone know,
Sleeping with eyes closed , still letting the tear drop flow,
        That's "A Silent Tear "  , we all know.

A Silent Tear is grief of your heart,
Pain of your soul,
Shout of joy,
Scream of happiness.
It flows down the eyes running on our cheeks, speaks our heart aloud, but still goes unheard.

It encompasses all your feelings,engulfed all your emotions still goes unheard.

Trust me when I say, if someone hears your Silent Tear, you are closest to that heart because - A Silent Tear can only be felt not heard.


   "Aasuo ko zuba nahi par kehti wo baatein        kahi.
    Siskiyo ko aawaz nahi par ghunjti hai wo        har kahi.
    Ye aasu hai hi aeisi ,
    Dabbe pao dil ka haal baya kar jati....."

Independent or Dependant

A new thought to share with you all..

We live in an independent country, don't we?

We have our freedom, don't we?

These words are churning our brains to get an answer. 

I don't know how much of this , men would be able to relate but I m very sure every girl reading it might have experineced it At least once in their life time.

Every human is at first dependant for its survival or rather existence on its carrier (Mother ) , this dependency advances to a new zone called as Family , then Siblings , then Relatives, with time it grows to towards Friends.

Dependency does not end here but we still call ourselves independent. 

But this dependency now increases when we start to build a new bond called Marriage.

We are taught that once we are married we are mature, we can do our own things but we are still dependant. ..... we are seek permission for the smallest of our wish from our spouse , our in laws, spouse's relatives and friends and the most that all of hate to hear or know - dependency on our Kids.

We have the independence to eat our favourite dish but to get it we are dependant on our parents when we are kids.

We have the independence to buy our own clothes but we dependant on our spouse and the family to wear as per our choice.

We have the independence to prepare our favourite sweet but we are dependent on our Kids to allow us.

I can do things alone but to enjoy it I need someone along ......

Are we really independent or do we live a life of dependency ?

From existence to death we dependant but we are still independent.

Prevention is Better than Cure

Hello my dear friends ,

Right from our childhood days this is one of the famous saying we are taught - Prevention is Better than Cure.

For some reason this saying is the highly ignored too.

Hey I m not talking of any illness or disease that could be prevented.... but about the major issue today's generation face ..... Failed relationship or rather divorce.....

This term causes more devastation and pain than Cancer.

I know both men and women who have had to go thru this process damaging their normal state of lives.

What makes us reach this stage?
Can this be prevented?
Sometimes I feel yes.
I always believed trust and love lay the foundation of a healthy relationship .
But sooner I learnt they are only components.

Relationship is like a dish prepared during a meal.
There are many ingredients to it like trust, love , care , understanding..... But just like salt is the key ingredient to every dish the key ingredient for a healthy relationship is "Mutual Respect".

If we respect each other and respect each other's family, the bond between the two is bonded forever.
Many relations does not part ways because of each other but because of lack of respect for each other's family members or due to lack of respect received from the in laws.

How do I say this with so much confidence. ... As I had a close friend who had to take this strong decision when she realised that she was soon gona be married to a guy where due to circumstances both,  the bride and the groom had lost the respect for each other's parents.
They still loved each other, cared and understood each other like Nobody else could do but the respect was lost...

Though they are far away today but happily acknowledge that their decision was right .....

So Respect each other and Respect each other's family all other emotions just fall tightly in place and the relationship then lives forever.

I am a witness to a few couples who have parted ways as they failed to develop respect for each other and the respective families.

Earn the Respect to Prevent the pain of separation

Free Will- 2

So let's continue with our thoughts......

We all have a right to Free Will but it comes along with consequnces 

Just like eating the Apple was Adam n Eve's <Free Will> but the consequence was to be thrown out of  heaven.

Just know this , that when you choose a path to walk , you should also be ready to bear with the hurdles along that path

The biggest reason of many problems that we face today is that We want to use our <Free Will> but are not willing to face the consequences.

I would like to share a story here with you all.

A few years back , during the good old school days , 10th board exams is one of the crucial stages of our lives.  The scores determines our future. Students teachers parents all are very apprehensive here about getting good scores. Students wish for high scores so that they may get into a renowned college , Parents wish for goodscore so that they may see their child closer to achieving their dreams , teachers wish for high scores so that their school gets recognition and they maintain their standards. It's a competition. Rather very well known as "  the rat race "

Well we have been a part of it or rather are still a part of it .
We had a very bright student amongst us who was brilliant in academics , sports , arts etc .......
Oh yes she was the leader in the rat race but life took a turn , slowly as she reached a phase where she explored a world beyond the academics sports arts - The real world.

Soon the choices deferred . Books got replaced with phones, friends and parties.

Before she could realise the excellence of academics flew away and she failed her first sem exams. This shattered her.

A girl who never knew failure had failed for the first time. Though her loved and near ones were disappointed nobody said anything but she was incapacitant to handle the consequence of her actions.
One fine day when her parents returned home from work they found her cold body hanging on the fan. She killed herself.

Ignoring the studies and moving to life of worldly joy was her choice, her Free Will but she was not ready to accept the consequence of failure that came along with that.

Free Will is a gift if rightly used .......... Choose wisely .........
Live your life wisely .........